Noli Me Tangere — Touch Me Not

Did you know that in the United States alone, 30 – 45 million women suffered from low sexual drive?

At first I thought this number comes from the number of menopausal women. According to Wikipedia there are some 76 millions of baby boomers in the United States. Thus if half of them are women, then the numbers just fall right around the middle of the boomers’ number.

A good friend of mine, Joe Setyawan even has a name to describe the sleeping position of a menopausal wife. Most of the time the wife would go to bed earlier than the husband, then she would sleep in a ‘noli me tangere,’ the Latin for “touch me not” position. Of course this has nothing to do with Dr. Jose Rizal’s novel or the Gospel of John. When the husband comes in later, what he finds is his wife that is sleeping in a very protective position leaving only her back which is continuously broadcasting the ‘noli me tangere’ signal.

That’s why I was a bit surprised to hear Juliet Huddy said in this video — it is estimated that around 20% of young women have a persistently low interest in sex — as she introduces this topic and asks the question to Dr. Rosenfeld. Please listen to their exchanges below:



After watching this, the first question that came to mind was, “does ‘noli me tangere’ story also common in young couples’ life?” Unfortunately, other sources confirmed that there is a real problem with young women too. For example, Mary Shomon – known for her works on thyroid problems wrote in Dr. Hotze’s website the following:

Many women consider loss of sex drive as an unavoidable part of getting older, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Low — or no — sex drive may actually be a sign of undiagnosed, untreated hypothyroidism in some women. If you have a problem with your libido, any medical workup your doctor does to evaluate you should also include a complete thyroid examination, to rule out low thyroid as a potential cause.

A quick search from the Internet show that these 2 sites offer some good info on low sexual drive and its causes. Both give evidences that support Dr. Izzy and Mary Shomon’s explanations above:

  • Mayo Clinic listed the following 4 problem areas and any problem in these areas would affect the libido in women:

    • Physical causes
    • Hormone changes
    • Psychological causes
    • Relationship issues

  • Dr. Hotze’s website provides answers to question: What causes low libido in women?

If Dr. Izzy jokingly said, he has never met one of these young women with low interest in sex, I will say the same thing too. The privacy and the sensitivity of the problem prevent it to become a topic that anyone would share with other beside their love one. But after listening to Dr. Izzy’s video and going through these references myself, now, I am also curious. What is really happened in the real world?

For me, recognizing that there is a problem is the first step toward finding a solution. Since most of the visitors to my site are not in baby boomers age group like me, I have listed the following questions for you:

  • Do you happen to know any young woman who is struggling with this problem out there? (no I didn’t ask who is she? 🙂 )
  • Do you know how did she overcome this problem?
  • Did she go to see a doctor and get a specific treatment?
  • Did she take any specific medications such as what Dr. Izzy mentioned in this video?
  • Did she go for some alternative treatments such as acupuncture, yoga or taking the supplements to overcome the problem?
  • Last but not least, did you ever come across any personal story on the web from how did they overcome these problems in their lives?

Hopefully, with some added references, we may encourage those young women who are suffering out there to go and seek medical help, to enjoy or re-enjoy a healthy sexual life (again). I hope!

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One Response to Noli Me Tangere — Touch Me Not

  1. Mitsuko Susa says:

    Good post, some fascinating details. I believe six days ago, I have discovered a similar post.

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